Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
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Tuesday, January 29, 2013

wake up from the dream, girl


In the song, “Little Dreams” by Ellie Goulding, it shares the message of remembrance. I think what Ellie Goulding is trying to show is how powerful our mind can be. It can take over our actions and make us oblivious from the reality. I think this song kind of illustrates the story of a girl who is remembering the guy that left her that she is still in love with and it hurts to face the reality he is gone, so it’s easier to daze off into the memories. There’s a line that says, “You've got me caught in a place/Panic for a minute/Got my brain in a daze/I wish you weren't in it/There are so many ways/To lose your attention” I think this verse sort of shows the longing for the moment, but knows its wrong. the girl wants to move on, but she can’t. a lot of the song also portrays the message of past experiences taking over our emotional state. For example one verse it says, “If the streetlight smashed above me/I wouldn't move an inch/Turn the glass into stars/And your face is the moon/And the night turns to you/'Cause my mind is on you” this is towards the beginning of the song and shows the weakness this girl faces. She has startling dreams, but they always turn to him. This is like symbolizing instead of facing the pain, she pretends. Then at the end of the chorus she says, “You can break everything but so what?/I can take anything.” This shows the strength that she is rebuilding. Then my favorite part of the song comes. She tries to sort of convince herself that she is over him. But the last chorus she says again how her mind is always on him. This song reminds me of her mental thought process.

This song is so true. It doesn’t even have to be in the sense of losing a lover or something, but just how denial makes things worse. Its shows the pain in wanting something to be over, or wanting to be strong but always falling apart at the end. There’s a part of the song where she says, “There are so many ways/ To lose your attention” I think this line is really depressing. It sort of says, I can’t get you out of my head, and you don’t really care or remember me. It reminds me of a scenario of being left behind. Leaving something that was special to you is a really hard thing to face, but having the other person not care while you are dying of loneliness is the worst feeling in the world.  

a lot of people can’t admit that they aren’t over something. I think this is definitely something that is really hard to let go of. Part of the problem is facing reality, because it’s so much easier to just pretend it’s not happening or be in denial. Listening to this song really shows that it’s okay to be taken over by grief or emotional breakdowns, but there is a way out. When she says, “You’re the heat in my bones/ but you beat me with stones.” This line is my favorite. This line shows betrayal and cruelness and cold hearted people but it also shows that there is no way to stop that. There is no way to make them come back, to love you again, to be your friend again.



Tuesday, January 22, 2013

A Bind That Holds Two Together


I’m  currently reading You’re the One I Want, from the series of Gossip Girl by Cecily von Ziegesar. In the chapter I just read, Blair and Nate decide to get back together, again. They have been together since forever (kindergarten) and people call them soul mates. Blair and Nate have set their paths for each other so they can be together. But in senior year of High School, they face their difficulties. They are still together, but readers can see the space forming between them. They start fighting and break up several times, but always have a bind that forces them to get back together. this got me thinking about things that bind people together even though they have grown apart.

I think that Blair and Nate aren’t in love anymore, but they can’t let go of the fact that they have made the plan of being together for the rest of their lives so they would rather ignore the fact. I think part of it is facing your fears. They are both scared to let go of each other. There is so much history between them, that they woukd rather save that. But a lot of people realize that sometimes letting go is the best thing to do. Blair and Nate will still remember the history and the times they were in love, but what is the point of remembering something that they didn’t enjoy? It makes you think, wait wouldn’t the years they continue while they face the fight of distance cloud the good memories?

I’ve been in this position a lot. Usually it’s with friendships. Middle school, people change. The people you called your best friend start changing from who they were. You start growing apart and they become aliens to you. But it isn’t easy. It isn’t leaving the one you loved so much go. You don’t want to let the best times go away, you don’t want the reality that you aren’t friends anymore to become a reality. It hurts both of you usually, but it’s harder when you are left behind and the other person doesn’t care. That has happened to me and it literally broke my heart. But now, I feel better than ever. I have friends that I care as much as I did my first best friend and I still miss the person, but it gives you closure when you can let the bind go but not forget the memories.

Letting go doesn’t mean forgetting. Memories can last forever, friendships can’t always.